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What drives me - what leads me to TEARS. ............. T E A R S

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POVERTY - The POVERTY that imprisons the spirit.

I have the best family in the world.

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GREAT #RugbyLeague article in the Guardian today

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This is going to sound like the setup to a surreal joke, but nevertheless: last week, a young man from St Helens called Harry Roberts was lying in bed when he looked up and saw the comedian Johnny Vegas standing at his bedroom window, bearing a box of face masks. As it turned out, Roberts – a 19-year-old St Helens fan who suffers from cerebral palsy and quadriplegia – had been the unwitting beneficiary of a visit from the Steve Prescott Foundation, the charity set up by the 1990s and 2000s Saints full-back who died in 2013 of a rare form of stomach cancer. Over the last decade the foundation has become one of rugby league’s best known philanthropic enterprises. During the coronavirus crisis it has been delivering food and protective equipment to households in St Helens and, as a proud Saints fan at a temporary loose end, Vegas has been cheerfully mucking in. Just a single snapshot of how a sport, even in the absence of sport, can still make itself useful. Leeds Rhinos hav

She was as vulnerable as hell......................

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Lisa I love you. It is her birthday tomorrow :: A few years ago today Lisa dropped off my screen. She had been ever present on Facebook. Then silence. She was as vulnerable as hell. Like all of us -  but she was so fragile  she could not pretend -  Like I do Like we do …….. She always used to carry around  a screw top coca-cola bottle -  she carried it everywhere.  It didn't only have coca-cola inside. Vodka was always present. I led regular group work sessions  in a London hostel where she lived. Lunch time with free tea and sandwiches. Also late night ones starting 10pm. We used to sit around. Starting with donuts dipped in a chocolate fondu. Individuals all with untold stories untold feelings. Some regulars Some nervous new residents. I facilitated participation using Blob Tree tools & more. All aimed at affirmation triggering a climate of trust and humans opening up like flowe

I was 15 when it all started.

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I have worked with young beautiful humans  since I was one - a teenager that is! I was 15 when it all started. I didn't know I was a beautiful human then ! It was later when I discovered -  until I was 40 before I discovered I was a BHP. Thats when I started to say 'you are beautiful' -  to you .......... From factory industrial work and voluntary work in the evening and week-ends  I went to work residentially FULL TIME  with young offenders BHP's. It was a 'we' decision. MrsBeautiful & me. WE had only been married for one year and  we sold up and took a big step of faith burning bridges (only non-people bridges) And then we lived worked loved tried failed along the way as we moved to different mission callings  by the wag of a little finger and ............ .......... and inner stirrings of he soul. I could write a book about these things ........... BHP

THE SECRET OF LOVE

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This is about the best description of THE ROLLING MAGAZINE ever - by a Norwegian journalist.

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Mr. Beautiful  and the teenagers Saturday night had something special to offer for the teenagers at the «vintertreff» at Hareid, Norway. British Pip Wilson got the youth to participate in all kinds of activities, dances and conversations, and gave them a show filled with warmth and love. In the hall just outside the «stage room» at Hareidhallen, members of TenSing Norway were lined up behind a table, getting the kids to stamp their fingerprint onto a sheet of paper on their way in.  Inside, the room was starting to fill up.  The title «Rolling Magazine» lit the large canvas at the stage. - Hellicopter! As Pip himself entered the stage, and the music started, a loud roar was heard amongst the audience.  He opened the night with a heartfelt  «You are beautiful!»,  and explained that during the night,  he would shout «Hellicopter!» several times.  The kids in the audience were then to stretch their arms out to the sides, and spin around, just like a helli

I write to tell me where I am. ........ this is about AWARENESS & SKILLS.

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We all live in a Bubble. I do You do It's not possible for me to burst your Bubble I have spent  a life time trying to burst my Bubble But now I have stopped trying burst your Bubble I have a different strategy = it is Helping others to  * see * feel * know *  their own Bubble Helping humans to burst their own Bubble I need to be in a 'helping relationship' to do that. I need to first, and continuously, to accept the BHP's with whatever Bubble they are in. "Everyone we meet is fighting a battle ('bubble')  we know nothing about" Otherwise I am no use to anyone. I never give advice. BUT I do tell stories about my own  Bubble bursting journey. My Failures........ my awareness of some of my weaknesses. The attempted ones and ones I have managed. Stories include the journey into awareness which can lead me to the place where I am. Awareness always has to precede SKILL.  Life Skills.  Emotional awareness,  spiritual

STAND BY ME - A GREAT SONG - STAY WITH ME

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YES YOU ARE ..................

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TRY - keep on trying ............... a list for consideration.

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LOCKDOWN We are creatures of habit. Of routine. We are all in our own groove. So try new.  Try different.  Try crazy. Try unexpected. Like punk?  Try opera. Wear black?  Try white. Love bubbles?  Try still. Speak Spanish?  Learn Chinese. Love to ride?  Try running. Always grumpy?  Try happy. Like science fiction?  Try romance. Never cook?  Bake some bread. Forever cynical?  Try love.  Try Trust.  Try hope. Exercise by a different route. Say yes when you mean no. Wear your watch on the other hand. Leave the comfort zone. BHP

Are you a Palm Person?

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Become a WINNER.

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Don't know about you but .. My feelings are changing during the lockdown days/weeks.

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Don't know about you but .. My feelings are changing during the lockdown days/weeks. It's important to share them with your nearest. MrsBeautiful and me do that. Not only in lockdown but in all-time  NOT suggesting an outburst Not suggesting to letting them build up -  until there is a regrettable outburst. Feelings need to be shared not exploded. We need to feel them Dig it to them strive to understand them and especially to share them ideally with some dialogue exchange which helps in these acts of self disclosure. "We become fully conscious only of what  we are able to express to someone else.  We may already have had a certain inner intuition about it,  but it must remain vague so long as it is unformulated” Paul Tournier  from 'The Meaning of Persons’ That is my favourite Group-work quote which also applies to relationships and our own emotional well-being BECOMING. If we don't have a human close